Goals out the Window!

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Last week was tough for this gal.  Mister has a case of the Shingles and he’s got them in his eye, of all places.  Shingles of the eye are nasty!  As of the writing of this update hubs is being treated for a tear in his cornea. Not good!!!!  Suffice it to say that my teeny, tiny goal list has not gotten my highest priority paid to it this week.  I have had some time to attend to the list while at work, but the rest of it just kinda went out the window.  I did not complete my task.

LAST WEEK’S THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS

1  Create a Gratitude List and add to it every day this week.

2  Research 3 on-line resources for paid writing assignments and choose one to try.

3  Tackle the kitchen cupboards again, releasing more “stuff” into the world.

HOW I DID!

In a word: Abysmal!

The Good News:  I got to the meetings I had committed to attend this week, got the sleep I needed to soldier on, and took care of the mister’s many medical needs, if not in that order.  I feel “good” about the fact that I could achieve as much as I did this week considering what we’ve had to deal with, and I’m glad to report that my lover is some better today.  Our biggest goal as a couple right now is solving the problem my guy’s rather strong pain killers are causing his digestive track.

Metamucil to the rescue!

Hubby is actually using SennaGen and sugar-free chocolates to get the old pipes humming again. Those and lots and lots and LOTS of water!

I did work on a Gratitude List this week, but I did not record my thoughts every day of the week on that list.

OBSERVATIONS

Shingles of the eye is nothing to fool with and will cause you much concern in the healing process.

I’m just one person. I cannot do “it” all alone.

A strong immune system is a good thing, and we should do what we can to support it as we age.

Good friends send humorous cards during trying times, to lift spirits and remind you, This Too Shall Pass!

De-cluttering the cupboards a second time is a ridiculous goal when life issues present themselves. Shingles trumps cleaning every time!

Doctors who have Jersey accents and make farmer jokes in the ER are my kinda people.

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS FOR NEXT WEEK

1.2.3: Take care of Bob and get him well.  That is my only goal for this week and I think it qualifies for my list because it will take all my teeny, tiny concentration to get ‘er done!

What are your goals for this week?  What are you most thankful for as the holiday seasons gets underway?

Note: Thanksgiving is just 3 teeny, tiny weeks away!

New Goals-Oct 27

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I cannot believe it has been two weeks since I last posted a goal list.  So much has happened since that time, and almost none of it was orderly or planned.  I hate that!

My last goal list can be found here. I will not be talking about HOW I DID on this update. Suffice it to say my last goals required too much thinking, when life demanded action.  I’m glad to put them in my rear view mirror and march forward with new goals today.

DISRUPTIONS TO MY ORDERED LIFE

Below, are some of the things that have occurred in my world over the last two weeks:

We had the wee ones down for a weekend, without mom and dad. That was fun!

My sister-in-law left this earth.

Mister dropped everything to support his brother as he grieved.

A nephew missed a court date, and came up missing.

We worried that a warrant had been issued.  Thankfully, one had not.

Hubs came down with a bad case of shingles (is there any good case of shingles?)

We spent a night in the ER/ED!

Shingles lay siege to my mister!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WHEN GOALS GO OUT THE WINDOW

I don’t know about you, but when the whirlwinds of life start swirling around me I hunker down and focus on staying safe. My goal list goes out the window in times like these and I do well to simply function, without functioning at top speed or higher achievement levels.

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS FOR THIS WEEK

I think two weeks is long enough for this girl to go without some goals in place. That being the case, here are my new goals for the following week.

1  Create a Gratitude List on this blog and post to it every day this week.

2  Research 3 on-line resources for paid writing assignments and choose one to try.

3  Tackle the kitchen cupboards again, releasing more “stuff” into the world.

OBSERVATIONS

It’s easy to get distracted when life begins to swirl around you.

Even when someone is sick for a long time, their leaving creates deep sadness.

Parents don’t have control over adult children, and neither are they responsible for what they do or where they go.

Police are not the big bad wolf, they just have a job to do.

Not all emergency room spaces are clean. They certainly are not as clean as TV programs make them seem. Not even close!

Tiny girls who are tasked with being night security in the hospital do not fill me with confidence.  I hope she has a side arm, or at least a stun gun in her holster.

Hospital waiting rooms are the scariest places on earth, especially for a germaphobic like me.

Shingles kicks butt, and will kick yours if you’re not prepared.

Who prepares for shingles?

People can be so rude.

What will you be focusing on this week?  Have you ever had shingles?

 

 

 

 

3 Goals-Oct 13

LAST WEEK’S THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS

1  Stay on track with daily exercise and oatmeal.

2  Mindfully eat and write.

3  Create a list of things that fuel joy in my life and share that list.

HOW I DID!

Goal No. 1:  Okay.  I rank this goal as just okay because while I ate oatmeal half the week, the other half I ate other things for breakfast.  I did do all my exercises all week, however.  I also switched back to a veggie heavy food plan, eating only vegetables at lunch time and concentrating on lots of veggies and little meats and breads at supper time.  I’m feeling better because of the change and I  have less pain.  Woohoo!  A good choice for me and something I will continue this week.

Goal No. 2:  Okay. I’m ranking this goal just okay because while I was mindful about my food intake this week, and switched up things with my POE (plan of eating), I did not write much about the changes.  I’ve decided to restrict some foods right now, and minimize the amount I digest of others.  It seems to be working for me.

Goals No. 3: Rocked it!  I worked on my joy list all week and posted as I went.  Some items on the list were more personal than others, but they all have been known to incite a sense of joy in me.  I was surprised by the amount of items I added to the list throughout the week.  If you want to see what makes me joyful, check it out here.

I’d love to hear about what makes you joyful, too. Include your thoughts in the comment section below.

THIS COMING WEEK’S GOALS

This week I have decided to concentrate on a three-fold approach to my goal list, all involving a conscious decision on my part to turn away from self and trust my Spiritual Mentor for help more often in my life.  I’m one of those creatures that has learned to operate under the assumption that if I work harder or longer, or more fervently, more things will be accomplished.  Problem being, I’m getting older each year and less inclined to push, push, push all the time.  My body is rebelling, and insists I listen.  While my natural inclination is to push through the pain, this last year has convinced me that is unwise.  I do better when I remember to pray, meditate, and graciously accept God’s help for setting boundaries around my time and energy expenditures.  This week my goals will reflect my new vision of not having to do “it” all on my own, and the challenge to rely on God and others more to help me find balance in life.

This three-fold goal list focuses on self-power, self-protection, and self-provision.

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS REGARDING “SELF”

1  Create a list of PROS and CONS associated with self-protecting behaviors I’ve employed in the past. When did they work, and why did they not?

2  Meditate on the benefits/detriments of powering through life on my own, and as time and inclination allow, address how self-powering attitudes might be a set-up for isolation on my part and confusion for others.

3  Look at ways I’ve pushed back on the tendency to provide for myself apart from the help of my Spiritual Mentor, God.  When have I decided to “get it on my own,” instead of waiting for it to be provided?

OBSERVATIONS

It’s hard for the hard-working to not work hard!

It’s good for me to think about new and maybe better ways of interacting.

I have more triggers for joy than I thought I did.

I want a heart that’s a work of art.

Pete the Cat is sooo cool!

Politics are a sticky wicket.

I’m ready for this election to be over, already!!!

What goals will you work to achieve this week?  If breaking big projects down into smaller steps is the way to achieving our goals, how come we don’t walk that way more often?

 

 

 

 

TGT-Sept 15

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As part of today’s blog post, I’m going to begin a new format with my Thursday goal and habit formation posts: TGT, or Three Goals Thursday.  This new format will include four sections.  Each section will have a header, and those headers will read:

LAST WEEK’S GOALS-where I will remind you of what my goals were this past week.

HOW I DID!-Where I report my progress, both successes and failures.

OBSERVATIONS-Offers more details and insight into my struggles and achievements.

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS-New goal list for the new week.

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LAST WEEK’S GOALS

As you know, I had three very small goals last week. They were:

1 Pursue a path of recovery with the new chiropractor, doing all he asks me to do in order to help myself in the most effective and efficient way.

2  Continue to learn new methods for paring down, in order to minimize my propensity for indecision.

3  Eat as cleanly as I can, incorporating as many veggies as I can and as much water as I can into my Action Plan for the week.

HOW I DID!

We’ve had another great week over here in NEPA!

Goal No. 1  EXCELLENT!  I can confidently report this week that I have followed the path of recovery laid out for me by professionals, and I have done all my chiropractor asked me to do.

Goal No. 2  EXCELLENT!  I have started to feel very comfortable with picking a different simple living project to focus on each weekend, while through the week I continue to read and study about minimalism and share what I’m learning with others.  I’m so thrilled with this new phase in life that I’m sure everyone is thinking, “Will you just shut up about all your cleaning. It’s just cleaning, for crying out loud!”  Little do they know how much deeper this thing has gone with me than mere cleaning.  I’m developing a whole new perspective on life because of this new understanding I’m gaining of what it means to be materialistic and how the the trappings of life can cut off the flow of joy.

Goal No. 3 STELLAR!  I didn’t give myself an excellent rating on this goal because I don’t have an Action Plan that is formally styled, typed, and hung on my wall.  Those things matter to me for some reason.  I have made concerted efforts to eat the rainbow this week though, and water consumption is up!  I do have an Action Plan.

OBSERVATIONS

FaceBook is a pain in my backside some days, and yet so addicting.  I have one person who asked me to add her to my friends list a while back, but never ever indicates that she has read my posts, or gives any encouragement about anything I share there.  I’m not sure why people ask to be included in my life when they don’t want to partake of it.  Thinking about what I should do about this, if anything at all.

My chiropractic treatments have not been achieving success quickly enough for me.  On Thursday of last week, I had this extended gripe session with myself.  I’m impatient for this therapy to work so I can get back to some form of exercise on a regular basis. I complained that I don’t see any appreciable difference in my condition/pain levels past those first two days of treatment, when I slept so well.  I’d been at this for all of three weeks and figured I should be feeling better. Of course I logically know this is not the case, but in my emotional brain felt like this was taking too long, and asked myself, “Why am I wasting my time and money on this, and why am I giving myself false hope?”  Yeah, it was bad.

Don’t you know, on the following Saturday I had no pain all day!  No numbness, no hot spots, no tingling and with no pain meds, all day and through the night! Bamm!!!  Take that, Lori!!  The bad news is that the pain returned on Sunday and it was there Monday, Tuesday….you get it, but, I am in less pain.  I am sleeping better.  My mood is improved.  I guess I best focus on being all I have to be thankful for, hunh?!!!!

As my pain has been decreasing, my spiritual sense of well being has been increasing!  A decision I’ve made to not buy anything I don’t need has been an unexpected source of joy.  Silly, I know, but I feel joyful about not spending money.  Weird.  Temptations to buy have come and gone, but I have not bought things I didn’t need. This is HUGE and I’m guessing can only impact life in a positive way for me and hubs.  We want to travel to GA this coming February, to stay with friends over a long weekend. The money we save now can be used then to enjoy that time and make memories.  Yeah, that brings joy!

As for the glimmers of inspiration, this:  I have written a well-received Friday Fiction short story, I have produced some penetrating and fearless journal entries that have addressed personal issues with me in a satisfying way, and I have experienced a rare piece of intuition that although it was not spot-on, led to the fixing of a hidden problem with our car that could have been a serious issue. Serious enough that I would have had to purchase a new car.  These are true encouragements to my soul and are helping to bolster my faith in the process.

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS

Keeping goals the same for one more week.  These are too good to mess with right now!!!

What are you doing to improve your odds this week?  What is one goal you’re willing to work on as a project of self-care?

End of September Goals

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Have you ever tried to tackle two really big projects at once?  Yeah, disaster.  Neither of them gets done well, and you walk away feeling like a cheat to either one or the other, maybe both.  That’s how I felt this week as I tried to balance three projects at one time.

  • Three Chiro appointments, each one involving some degree of pain; more after the fact.
  • Three Goals, one of which included following Chiro instructions to the letter.
  • De-cluttering my living space/life, and learning more about minimalism (also a TGT goal).

When I look over this list, just typed, I’m thinking, “Give yourself a break, Lori. You’ve hit 2 of your 3 goals with your weekly projects.  You’re doing okay.”

MY THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS FROM LAST WEEK

1 Pursue a path of recovery with the new chiropractor, doing all he asks me to do in order to help myself in the most effective and efficient way.

2  Continue to learn new methods for paring down, in order to minimize my propensity for indecision.

3  Eat as cleanly as I can, incorporating as many veggies as I can and as much water as I can into my Action Plan for the week.

HOW I DID!

I’m happy to report that I was able to achieve stellar results with both Goal No. 1 and Goal No. 2!!!  I have done everything the new doc has asked me to do regarding my back.  I have iced it through the day at the office, and I have continued to ice it at night, at home, while relaxing. This is what he asked me to do, while he does other things.  Yay, SUCCESS!!!

I have also continued to learn new methods for paring down and tackling deadly indecision.  I’ve made several decisions this past week, all of them involving de-cluttering practices and reading about minimalism, in order to have a better understanding of what I’m doing with this experiment.

I have enjoyed reading the blog a commenter suggested last week.   I started reading with Julie’s December 2014 postings, since here 2015 posts are those that deal with a simpler life, the project that has most piqued my interest this summer.

Goal No 2—ROCKING IT!

Goal No. 3 has also been on my mind this week and I have taken action to achieve it.  Last night, I made a pan of baked oatmeal, my first in a while, and all week long I have been concentrating on getting more veggies into my body.  My body, as always, has responded nicely to the veggie buffet and the whole grain additions to my diet.  Why do I ever leave this kind of eating?  Who knows?  I have also made it my goal to drink more water.  GOAL NO. 3-A WIN!!!

OBSERVATIONS ALONG THE WAY TO VICTORY!

On my way to achieving my goals, I finished up a few projects which just happened to include sorting through the many cook books in my cupboard and donating a few of them before throwing away a bunch of loose recipe sheets I had printed off the internet.  I never used any of them and they fell out of the cupboard every time I reached for one of my regular cook books, so out they went.  I’m going to write about that more on Tuesday of next week, but for now I thought I would share a few shots of my clean space and those cook books I love so much.

Here is what the cupboard now looks like, decidedly less cluttered after the culling.

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And here is a shot of those cookbooks I love and use all the time.

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That Better Homes and Gardens, yeah, I have had that a long time…

Look at that cover. Well worn! Tattered and Stained! Yuck!

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I need to clean this baby.  It has been splattered on for decades without a good shower.  Look at these graphics and design/fashion suggestions from the book. Ha!  Certainly not today’s everything white minimalistic look.

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Look at that copyright date.

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Just keepin’ it real, folks.  I have used this cook book again and again, and really, all the time. I have a new BHAG cook book, but it’s not the same.  Many of the old recipes aren’t there.

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Last grimy picture, of my gram’s Chocolate Mayo Cake handwritten on an index card years ago—always a crowd pleaser and it contains no milk, so works perfectly for my nephew, who is allergic. Also, a typed and printed sheet for School Boy Jumbles, a sugar cookie recipe—the BEST soft sugar cookie recipe in the world!!  No competition here!  Hands down, the B.E.S.T.  I don’t eat many of these nowadays, but once in a while, when the occasion warrants and there will be plenty of folks around to gobble these up, I do make them. They are out of this world delicious!  Really good comfort food!

NEXT WEEK’S GOALS

I’m going to keep my goals the same for yet another week.  Why mess with success, right?  Plus, these teeny, tiny goals are accomplishing great things at my house.  I’ll go with them another week and see where it leads.

What goals have you set for yourself this week?  Did you make sure to make them teeny, tiny and write them down?

 

 

Goal Settin’ Time!

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As you might remember, I didn’t set goals last week because I was in too much pain.  Heck, I could barely think straight, let alone project into the future to determine what I wanted to DO next week to move my life forward.  When that much pain takes over, you can forgetaboutit as far as the goal setting goes.  It takes all my energy in those moments to show up for work, be half-way productive, and not crumble into a pile of despair on the floor and cry myself to sleep.  I kid you not!

Today, I feel better!  I don’t hurt as much.  I’m more optimistic.  Encouraged, even.

Today, I’m going to set some goals, but they won’t look like those I’ve set in the past.

MINIMALISM!!!!!!!!!!!!

I’m currently on a mission to de-clutter, clear away, donate and rid myself of those things that I see as bringing an imbalance to my life.  I have so much stuff!  I want it gone.  At least I want gone that part of my stuff that is not serving me or my healthy living objectives.

Living minimally, as I understand it, begins with the material stuff. As I’ve moved further into this movement, though, I’ve found a desire to rid myself of other stuff too.  Stuff like junk mail, projects that are not the least bit interesting to me, obligations that tie me down when I want to fly, and relationships that continually lack joy.  In actuality, I ‘ve been culling out those relationships for a while now, I just didn’t see that as minimalistic in nature.  Now I see the value of having less in my life, and I’m already seeing it help with my struggle with indecision.  The more I have, the less able I am to deal with it.

I don’t think that’s a problem for everyone, but it is for me.  I want less stuff. I want less choices.

I’ve even been thinking about how the concept of minimalism can be applied to my diet and the food I bring into the house.  Thinking…thinking…thinking.

MINIMAL GOALS

All this thinking about minimalistic living has filtered down to my goal list.  What I’ll share with you this week is just the tip of the iceberg of the many goal lists I make in my head, on the job, and in my scheduling for outside interests each week.  I have many, many lists. I want less of them.  One way I have decided to minimize the stress and strain on my goal-listing self is to make a pledge this week to have less lists.

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS

This week I’m going to try something different.  One list with three goals that should be easy to achieve, and leave me wiggle room.

1  Pursue a path of recovery with the new practitioner, doing all he asks me to do in order to help myself in the most effective and efficient way.

2  Continue to learn new methods for paring down, in order to minimize my propensity for indecision.

3  Eat as cleanly as I can, incorporating as many veggies as I can and as much water as I can into my Action Plan for the week.

These goals are wider in scope and allow me wiggle room I need to tackle the “stuff” that I think can bring balance back to my life, without making me list-crazy.  I’ll letcha know how it goes.

What goals do you have for yourself these days?  Are they wide and deep, or narrow and focused? 

 

 

Goals and Self-Discovery

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THE CHART

This week I thought I might do a lil bit better with my goals if I made a chart.  It actually turned out pretty good for a hand-made accountability tool. Visuals help, right?  Problem was, I made it, but not until yesterday.

Yeah, shiny things distract me!

Anyway, I made the chart and I filled out the chart, writing down what I had done already this week and yesterday, and then what I did this morning.  I think this chart would have worked well for me had I made it earlier in the week. I have a blank one ready to go for this coming week! I will remember this time. I will!!!

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS FROM LAST WEEK

1  Get to bed early at last twice this week.  SCORE!  I did get to bed early at least twice this week. In fact, I was in bed early 3x this week.  A big WIN for me! Yay!

2  Make my bed every day this week.  YES YES!!!  I hit the bull’s eye on this one!  I made my bed every day this week and every day it looked great!

3  Dance in the kitchen with the mister for ten minutes, at least three times this week.  FAIL!!!!  Can you believe it?  I did not dance with my mister even once this week. What?!  How could that be?

You would think that finding ten minutes to dance with my mister would be an easy goal, wouldn’t you?  Guess not. Not for me, not this week.  I think this one needs to go back on my list. I’m bummed that I did so poorly on that last goal.  I know hubs would have made time if I had shared the goal and chart with him. Totally my bad on this one, and I’m angry with myself for missing out.  :/

WHAT I LOVE ABOUT MY SMALLER-THAN-USUAL GOALS

I like setting goals as a means of keeping myself focused on needed improvements and self-care.

Setting goals helps me to see where I’m robbing from what matters most to me, in order to support what matters least.  Without the goal list, I doubt I would recognize defeating patterns developing, let alone find the energy and impetus to address them.

Finally, this week I noticed a couple of nights I came home feeling like my partner hadn’t done enough during the day.  He’s retired, while I’m still working, which creates a sometimes challenging dynamic for me.  This imbalance in our work schedules can lead me into a pity party.  I’d like to be a stay-at-home self-employed glamour granna, but have yet to figure that one out!!! Last night I realized I had landed in that space again—that dissatisfied and grumbling, why-can’t-you-see-this-needs-to-be-done-without-me-reminding-you space, and had to once again check myself!  Ugh!

Do any of the rest of you hate unrealistic expectations, and yet still get trapped by them sometimes?  I hate that!

MORE TEENY, TINY GOALS FOR ANOTHER WEEK

This week, I’m going to keep my goals simple and the same.  I’m especially going to be focused on dancing with my hubby in the kitchen for at least 10 minutes on three separate occasions this week.  Anyone have a romantic mixed tape they can loan me?

1  Get to bed early at last twice this week. 

2  Make my bed every day this week. 

3  Dance in the kitchen with the mister for ten minutes, at least three times this week. 

What goals will you set for yourself this week?  When have your expectations for yourself or others been too high?