New Goals-Oct 27

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I cannot believe it has been two weeks since I last posted a goal list.  So much has happened since that time, and almost none of it was orderly or planned.  I hate that!

My last goal list can be found here. I will not be talking about HOW I DID on this update. Suffice it to say my last goals required too much thinking, when life demanded action.  I’m glad to put them in my rear view mirror and march forward with new goals today.

DISRUPTIONS TO MY ORDERED LIFE

Below, are some of the things that have occurred in my world over the last two weeks:

We had the wee ones down for a weekend, without mom and dad. That was fun!

My sister-in-law left this earth.

Mister dropped everything to support his brother as he grieved.

A nephew missed a court date, and came up missing.

We worried that a warrant had been issued.  Thankfully, one had not.

Hubs came down with a bad case of shingles (is there any good case of shingles?)

We spent a night in the ER/ED!

Shingles lay siege to my mister!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WHEN GOALS GO OUT THE WINDOW

I don’t know about you, but when the whirlwinds of life start swirling around me I hunker down and focus on staying safe. My goal list goes out the window in times like these and I do well to simply function, without functioning at top speed or higher achievement levels.

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS FOR THIS WEEK

I think two weeks is long enough for this girl to go without some goals in place. That being the case, here are my new goals for the following week.

1  Create a Gratitude List on this blog and post to it every day this week.

2  Research 3 on-line resources for paid writing assignments and choose one to try.

3  Tackle the kitchen cupboards again, releasing more “stuff” into the world.

OBSERVATIONS

It’s easy to get distracted when life begins to swirl around you.

Even when someone is sick for a long time, their leaving creates deep sadness.

Parents don’t have control over adult children, and neither are they responsible for what they do or where they go.

Police are not the big bad wolf, they just have a job to do.

Not all emergency room spaces are clean. They certainly are not as clean as TV programs make them seem. Not even close!

Tiny girls who are tasked with being night security in the hospital do not fill me with confidence.  I hope she has a side arm, or at least a stun gun in her holster.

Hospital waiting rooms are the scariest places on earth, especially for a germaphobic like me.

Shingles kicks butt, and will kick yours if you’re not prepared.

Who prepares for shingles?

People can be so rude.

What will you be focusing on this week?  Have you ever had shingles?

 

 

 

 

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It’s Monday again!  “yeah,” you say, with as little enthusiasm as you can muster. But hey, it doesn’t have to be that kind of Monday. It can be a joyful Monday…a productive Monday…A Monday to end all Mondays!

Let’s make today a Super Monday, beginning with a FIVE MINUTE exercise.

ACTION PLAN

Today, let’s spend FIVE MINUTES on us, creating an Action Plan that we can refer to for the rest of the week.

What would you like to accomplish this week, beyond what NEEDS to get done?

What would make you feel fulfilled, purposeful, or accomplished, if at the end of the week you had done that thing?!

What have you been putting off?

What have you dreamed about beginning?

What new habit could you begin to practice this week?

Let’s make a plan to get ‘er done, an Action Plan.

For the next FIVE MINUTES rest from your other work and let you mind run free.  What needs to be a part of your life this week in order for you to feel that special feeling you’ve been missing for a while now?  Enter that on your Action Plan paper or screen.

It’s only FIVE MINUTES.  FIVE simple, meaningful, purposeful minutes.

What will you do with your FIVE today?

 

TGT-Sept 15

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As part of today’s blog post, I’m going to begin a new format with my Thursday goal and habit formation posts: TGT, or Three Goals Thursday.  This new format will include four sections.  Each section will have a header, and those headers will read:

LAST WEEK’S GOALS-where I will remind you of what my goals were this past week.

HOW I DID!-Where I report my progress, both successes and failures.

OBSERVATIONS-Offers more details and insight into my struggles and achievements.

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS-New goal list for the new week.

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LAST WEEK’S GOALS

As you know, I had three very small goals last week. They were:

1 Pursue a path of recovery with the new chiropractor, doing all he asks me to do in order to help myself in the most effective and efficient way.

2  Continue to learn new methods for paring down, in order to minimize my propensity for indecision.

3  Eat as cleanly as I can, incorporating as many veggies as I can and as much water as I can into my Action Plan for the week.

HOW I DID!

We’ve had another great week over here in NEPA!

Goal No. 1  EXCELLENT!  I can confidently report this week that I have followed the path of recovery laid out for me by professionals, and I have done all my chiropractor asked me to do.

Goal No. 2  EXCELLENT!  I have started to feel very comfortable with picking a different simple living project to focus on each weekend, while through the week I continue to read and study about minimalism and share what I’m learning with others.  I’m so thrilled with this new phase in life that I’m sure everyone is thinking, “Will you just shut up about all your cleaning. It’s just cleaning, for crying out loud!”  Little do they know how much deeper this thing has gone with me than mere cleaning.  I’m developing a whole new perspective on life because of this new understanding I’m gaining of what it means to be materialistic and how the the trappings of life can cut off the flow of joy.

Goal No. 3 STELLAR!  I didn’t give myself an excellent rating on this goal because I don’t have an Action Plan that is formally styled, typed, and hung on my wall.  Those things matter to me for some reason.  I have made concerted efforts to eat the rainbow this week though, and water consumption is up!  I do have an Action Plan.

OBSERVATIONS

FaceBook is a pain in my backside some days, and yet so addicting.  I have one person who asked me to add her to my friends list a while back, but never ever indicates that she has read my posts, or gives any encouragement about anything I share there.  I’m not sure why people ask to be included in my life when they don’t want to partake of it.  Thinking about what I should do about this, if anything at all.

My chiropractic treatments have not been achieving success quickly enough for me.  On Thursday of last week, I had this extended gripe session with myself.  I’m impatient for this therapy to work so I can get back to some form of exercise on a regular basis. I complained that I don’t see any appreciable difference in my condition/pain levels past those first two days of treatment, when I slept so well.  I’d been at this for all of three weeks and figured I should be feeling better. Of course I logically know this is not the case, but in my emotional brain felt like this was taking too long, and asked myself, “Why am I wasting my time and money on this, and why am I giving myself false hope?”  Yeah, it was bad.

Don’t you know, on the following Saturday I had no pain all day!  No numbness, no hot spots, no tingling and with no pain meds, all day and through the night! Bamm!!!  Take that, Lori!!  The bad news is that the pain returned on Sunday and it was there Monday, Tuesday….you get it, but, I am in less pain.  I am sleeping better.  My mood is improved.  I guess I best focus on being all I have to be thankful for, hunh?!!!!

As my pain has been decreasing, my spiritual sense of well being has been increasing!  A decision I’ve made to not buy anything I don’t need has been an unexpected source of joy.  Silly, I know, but I feel joyful about not spending money.  Weird.  Temptations to buy have come and gone, but I have not bought things I didn’t need. This is HUGE and I’m guessing can only impact life in a positive way for me and hubs.  We want to travel to GA this coming February, to stay with friends over a long weekend. The money we save now can be used then to enjoy that time and make memories.  Yeah, that brings joy!

As for the glimmers of inspiration, this:  I have written a well-received Friday Fiction short story, I have produced some penetrating and fearless journal entries that have addressed personal issues with me in a satisfying way, and I have experienced a rare piece of intuition that although it was not spot-on, led to the fixing of a hidden problem with our car that could have been a serious issue. Serious enough that I would have had to purchase a new car.  These are true encouragements to my soul and are helping to bolster my faith in the process.

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS

Keeping goals the same for one more week.  These are too good to mess with right now!!!

What are you doing to improve your odds this week?  What is one goal you’re willing to work on as a project of self-care?

Goals and Self-Discovery

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THE CHART

This week I thought I might do a lil bit better with my goals if I made a chart.  It actually turned out pretty good for a hand-made accountability tool. Visuals help, right?  Problem was, I made it, but not until yesterday.

Yeah, shiny things distract me!

Anyway, I made the chart and I filled out the chart, writing down what I had done already this week and yesterday, and then what I did this morning.  I think this chart would have worked well for me had I made it earlier in the week. I have a blank one ready to go for this coming week! I will remember this time. I will!!!

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS FROM LAST WEEK

1  Get to bed early at last twice this week.  SCORE!  I did get to bed early at least twice this week. In fact, I was in bed early 3x this week.  A big WIN for me! Yay!

2  Make my bed every day this week.  YES YES!!!  I hit the bull’s eye on this one!  I made my bed every day this week and every day it looked great!

3  Dance in the kitchen with the mister for ten minutes, at least three times this week.  FAIL!!!!  Can you believe it?  I did not dance with my mister even once this week. What?!  How could that be?

You would think that finding ten minutes to dance with my mister would be an easy goal, wouldn’t you?  Guess not. Not for me, not this week.  I think this one needs to go back on my list. I’m bummed that I did so poorly on that last goal.  I know hubs would have made time if I had shared the goal and chart with him. Totally my bad on this one, and I’m angry with myself for missing out.  :/

WHAT I LOVE ABOUT MY SMALLER-THAN-USUAL GOALS

I like setting goals as a means of keeping myself focused on needed improvements and self-care.

Setting goals helps me to see where I’m robbing from what matters most to me, in order to support what matters least.  Without the goal list, I doubt I would recognize defeating patterns developing, let alone find the energy and impetus to address them.

Finally, this week I noticed a couple of nights I came home feeling like my partner hadn’t done enough during the day.  He’s retired, while I’m still working, which creates a sometimes challenging dynamic for me.  This imbalance in our work schedules can lead me into a pity party.  I’d like to be a stay-at-home self-employed glamour granna, but have yet to figure that one out!!! Last night I realized I had landed in that space again—that dissatisfied and grumbling, why-can’t-you-see-this-needs-to-be-done-without-me-reminding-you space, and had to once again check myself!  Ugh!

Do any of the rest of you hate unrealistic expectations, and yet still get trapped by them sometimes?  I hate that!

MORE TEENY, TINY GOALS FOR ANOTHER WEEK

This week, I’m going to keep my goals simple and the same.  I’m especially going to be focused on dancing with my hubby in the kitchen for at least 10 minutes on three separate occasions this week.  Anyone have a romantic mixed tape they can loan me?

1  Get to bed early at last twice this week. 

2  Make my bed every day this week. 

3  Dance in the kitchen with the mister for ten minutes, at least three times this week. 

What goals will you set for yourself this week?  When have your expectations for yourself or others been too high?

 

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A WEEK OF HABIT

This past week my three teeny, tiny goals were these:

1  Eat oatmeal for breakfast several times.

2  Get to bed early at least twice.

3  Perform some kind of exercise every day.

HOW I DID!

Goal No. 1 EXCELLENT!  I ate my oatmeal several times this week. Not every morning, I’m still working on getting back to that, but several times.  I feel good about how I practiced this habit this week.

Goal No. 2  SCORE!!!  I was able to get to bed early two times this week, and boy, did I need it.  This hot muggy weather is killer, so I was glad to get in my jammies early, turn on the overhead fan, and snooze.

Goal No. 3 FAIL!  Other than moving around in an unorganized way, I have not exercised more than a few minutes this week.  I’m still experiencing a lot of pain in my leg and foot, some of it brought on by all the activity last week, when family was in town and we celebrated at our house.  This one will definitely be going on my list for next week. I need to do better.

RANDOM THOUGHTS I WOULD SHARE AS I ADULT THROUGH LIFE

Work has been tough.  A mixture of busy and boring, with some emotional stuff thrown in for good measure.  I’m not sure how I’m feeling about it all, but I’m trying to remain positive and help where I can.  We have several large projects in the works, with hard deadlines that always makes things interesting.  I sense that others are also, a little on edge.

The big news this week is that my co-worker won a cruise to the Caribbean that was GRAND PRIZE in a weight loss competition sponsored by our local gym.  She lost 34 pounds and beat out the second place entrant by a tenth of a pound.  Woohoo!  Regrettably, she has already returned to some of her previous eating habits. Still, I’m happy for her, and I’m hoping she can maintain the loss long-term.

I shared with you a few weeks ago that a spiritual development group had been recommended to me, didn’t I? I think I did.  Anyway, this group comes highly recommended and will be meeting through the fall and winter of 2016, and into the early spring of 2017.  I’m excited to think about the possibilities with this group, and will be sharing what I learn as I go along, so stay tuned for that.  We begin Sept 12th.

I’m going through another shedding phase with my hair!  My stylist mentioned it to me the other night when I got a trim.  I had noticed it myself, too. She asked that age-old question: Have you been feeling stressed lately?  Well, goodness, yes.  Haven’t we all?  The difference is that sometimes, because I’m so good at pushing the pressure back, my stress levels are only revealed through a loss of hair.  Ugh!  Remedy as I know it:  More early sleep nights, more culling of negativity from my circle of friends, more veggies in my diet, and more water throughout the day.  I think that spiritual reconnect I’ve been looking for from the group scheduled for this fall will help too.  I’m looking forward to that!

Frustration re: Passports.  I’ll finish this update by saying that I found the passport applications and photos I had misplaced, but still have not found our birth certificates.  Where is the world are they?  Only God knows these things.  In the meantime, I wait and keep searching for them. I know I put them someplace. Where, oh where is that place???!!

GOALS FOR NEXT WEEK — THE SAME AS LAST WEEK

1  Eat oatmeal for breakfast several times this week.

2  Get to bed early at least twice.

3  Perform some kind of exercise every day.

When have you found something tucked away in an unexpected place?  When has frustration found you?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Three Goals Thursday

Today slipped through my fingers like water passing over a pine bough that’s fallen into a high mountain stream. So quickly it ran!

If I don’t post my goals today, though, two weeks will have passed by without me doing what is important to me, so here they are.

THREE TEENY, TINY GOALS

This week I will endeavor to…

1  Eat oatmeal for breakfast several times.

2  Get to bed early at least twice.

3  Perform some kind of exercise every day.

These goals seem teeny, tiny enough, so I think they’ll work.

Final Note: For those of you following the saga of the passport authentications, you’ll love this.  Now, I can’t even find my passport applications.  What’s up with that???