On being tough…

000toughI joined an accountability group this month.

My goals for the month may be different from others, though. 

My focus during November is on personal toughness.

This month, I will practice personal toughness by being accountable to others.

This month, I will practice personal toughness by being open to others reflections on what toughness means to them.

This month, I will practice personal toughness with me, but be as gentle as I can with others.

I’ve already screwed up once, with an individual that felt I targeted her in expressing my opinion earlier today.  I guess I did, but it was more about principles than personalities. Still, she was offended.  That was my first misstep with toughness in November. Let’s hope there aren’t too many more of those to tick off during this month.

I don’t think being tough is wrong, or something women should shy away from just because others don’t understand how they apply this trait. In fact, I think women being tough is all right, but like many attributes pertaining to the fairer sex, personal toughness needs to be handled wisely!

For me, toughness is defined as tenacity, long-term focus that employs good management skills, and being consistent with my goals.

I can do this!!!

How do you define toughness?  What characteristics of toughness do you use to get you where you want to go in life?


Three Goals Thursday

It’s Three Goals Thursday again!  If you have not read one of my TGT posts, check out the beginning of this process here.

This week’s three goals focus on enjoyment rather than structure, but if I’m creative, maybe I can accomplish both.  Here is what I’m thinking for this week…

1.  I will go for a walk in the morning each day that the skies don’t pour down rain (we are expecting lots of rain this week in NEPA).  If walking doesn’t work, I will do some yoga poses and stretches, and then ride recumbent bike indoors.  I will exercise for at least five minutes each day, but more, as the time allows and I feel invigorated.  See how I snuck some “feelings” scenarios in there?  Yep, recovery is an emotional process, too.

2.  I will play with my food.  Each day this week I will be creative with the presentation of fruits and vegetables, making our dining room table fun and colorful and attractive to eaters who need more fiber and more enjoyment in their meal times.

3.  I will continue to eat baked oatmeal for breakfast each weekday.  I will allow myself other foods on the weekend, if we are traveling, which we might be, but I will eat oatmeal if I am at home. My body loves this stuff at the beginning of the day.

That’s three and they are teeny, tiny, and doable.  Yay!

This week I will also focus on avoiding perfectionism that leads to deadly procrastination.  I will have fun with my goals and fun with my grands.  The boys will be with us all week, while mom and dad go on a short-term missions trip.

What teeny, tiny goal are you willing to set for yourself in the next 24 hours?  What activity do you prefer, but have put off doing for some time because of schedules, travel, time-management issues, or distractions?

After Thanksgiving Thankfulness

I didn’t gain any weight during the Thanksgiving Holiday!

In fact, I came out of the holiday weighing exactly what I did going into it, and this morning I weighed less.

Woohoo! This is great news for a recovering COE!

How did I do it? 

I measured everything I ate.

I made sure I invested myself in other people.

I kept up with my 30 in 30 exercise regimen.

I burned added calories by playing with babes on the living room floor at my brother’s house.

I tried a new technique when making pie, but I also made a choice to forego one particular favorite food of mine–a fav filled with sugar.  I can honestly say that I didn’t miss it, although I thought I would, and my blood sugar wasn’t sent into the stratosphere by partaking of it.  Plus, there were no leftovers of forbidden fruits.

I thought I would share with you a few pics from my Thanksgiving Day celebration.

A picture of the pie–it really did turn out great!





Don’t you love those fox salt and pepper shakers? So cute




My younger son likes apple crumb topping on his pie, while my hubs likes as much flaky crust as he can get with his.  I decided to shoot for both, and used a dish towel set on a slice of tin foil, covered with two pot holders to weigh the pie down on the top as it cooled.  For those of you who like to cut corners by folding your dough in, rustic-style, this method prevented the top crust from cooling high above the filling, a no-no in my play book.  The pie turned out nicely, and I was very excited about that–probably more than pie crust warrants, truth be told. 😉

I also wanted to share with you a picture of me and my love. I call this Winter Blush. DSC_1850

I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving where you are, that you didn’t gain ten pounds after the dinner meal, that you had a lil bit of snow to play in after eating, and if you don’t celebrate the holiday, that you were able to celebrate a personally happy and healthy Thursday!  Mine was blessed beyond belief.

Thank you, Lord.  Change is possible!



Food Worries-NOT


Are you a worrier by nature?

Have you ever thought, even for a moment, that this or that wouldn’t happen if you stayed vigilant?

How much time do you spend hovering over your kids?

How often do you consciously think about issues of safety or protection?

Do you ever find yourself clenching your fists, your jaw, or other muscle groups?

When was the last time you medicated yourself for anxiety?

We live in a troubled world, for sure.  However, eating foods that neither nourish my body, nor fuel my thoughts will not help.  I will not do that.  I will not worry about food. 

Worry never helps. 

I will continue to journal my food, continue to practice making good food choices, and continue to put one foot in front of the other on this food journey.  By doing so, I am developing a way of eating and living that brings recovery, one day at a time.  I only have today; not the promise of tomorrow. 

Today, I choose fearless food management.