True willpower and courage are not on the battlefield, but in everyday conquests over our inertia, laziness, and boredom.  D. L. Moody


Do the Difficult First!

000mark twainif-its-your-job-to-eat-a-frog-its-best-to-do-it-first-thing-in-the-morning-mark-twain

A long time ago, when the dinosaurs roamed the earth, I put off unpleasant tasks until last-minute.  I stalled and stalled, and stalled, until I could stall no more, then I grudgingly did that thing I had been dreading doing.

Today, all that has changed! Somewhere along recovery road I learned that its best to eat my big frogs early in the day, in order to get their nasty taste out of my mouth as soon as possible.

That’s why I always schedule dentist and doctor appointments for first thing in the morning; 8:00am or earlier, if I can get ’em.

It’s also why I circle back around quickly to apologize for a slip of the tongue or a word too harshly spoken.

I can’t afford to wait, and if you’re eating a croaker, neither can you.

I think Mark had it right–when dealing with the big frogs of life, eat early and eat quickly.  Around noon time on a sunny day all bets are off that they might in any way taste palatable!

Lesson Learned:  Dry or sweaty frog meat is horrible, so embrace life with gusto and get the smelly stuff out of the way early in the day.

Are you more reactive or proactive in life?  When has waiting to deal with the frogs in your life caused you problems?





Changing What You Can


Recently, I’ve been challenged by a personal relationship that has shifted sideways.  In my mind, a friendship has fallen apart.  Will something better fall into place, now that this friendship has shifted positions? I don’t know the answer to that question.  What I do know, or what I sense, is that what used to be a meeting of the minds and a joint effort has changed to something I don’t recognize.

I will admit that the altered state of affairs between me and this other is disconcerting, and a distraction I am having a hard time putting out of my mind.

I want to trust that the shift is for my benefit, and in some ways I believe that is true, but change is always challenging.

Even when it’s good change.

Even when it’s healthy change.

Even when it is an absolutely necessary change!

Habits are hard to break, which is why I love and hate them so much.  I love habitual behavior when it serves me. I hate it when it plagues me.

Here’s the thing:  I’m powerless to change habits others have adopted.  I can only change myself.

That is where my hope lies today, in changing me. 

Some day soon I will stop trying to figure out what makes others tick.  Right now, I’m doing this at about 85% of capacity.  I’m hoping to ramp up that percentage soon, as I can put this problem in my rear view mirror.

I can’t make others change their mind about me. 

I can change me!

What problems are you facing right now that have the power to change you in the future?  Who do you want to be tomorrow, and why?